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|Children Playing in Safety - Valerie Jackson|
A hundred years ago, when I was very young, my Mother always said the same things when I went out to play, “Don’t go anywhere other than where you said you are going”; “Don’t do anything you shouldn’t” and “Enjoy yourself”, in that order. I knew what time to come back. I knew what I shouldn’t do, so that if I did it and was found out, I also knew there would be consequences!
knew where the dangerous places were and avoided most of them. They were
abandoned quarries where deep pits had filled with water over the years
and where a few children had drowned, their clothing snagged on rusting
iron hidden under the surface. They were rock faces which were too steep
to climb unless one felt very brave. They were homes that we all knew to
avoid, either because we thought the inhabitants were witches, or we just
felt uncomfortable being anywhere near them. Within those few parameters,
most of us were expected to get on with the demanding and sometimes serious
task of playing until bedtime.
On very rare occasions, something bad did happen to a child, but these were exceptional instances. The child who drowned; the little girl who ran across the road without stopping to look; these sad tales served to keep the rest of us alert for a considerable time. We all had scraped knees and some spectacular falls off bikes during races on the side roads.
I still have some scars to show that I was all-time champion on two wheeled bikes in a two-lap race with the boys! I had stitches in my leg where I fell off an iron gate to a field whilst attempting to walk across it like a tight-rope walker. We used to climb onto the back of a cart horse and then had to jump off when it began to gallop away once it got bored with us. We carried out our own risk assessments and sometimes we were wrong.
In recent years, the safety of children in particular, has become big business. We are so overloaded with Health and Safety ‘speak’ that we appear to have forgotten that in some play, the risk is all.
There could be several possible reasons for this overactive, almost neurotic, attitude towards safety. One is that we probably understand more than ever the consequences of accidental injury. We have become a litigious society. We are rapidly catching up with America where they play for big money. I remember how shocked I was when I first took out liability insurance for my counselling business and the amount that I was expected to cover myself for was one million pounds.
|Most people threaten to sue as a first
step rather than a final, no-other-option-move at the end of an unsuccessful
attempt at negotiation. Because of this, local councils, statutory services
and private enterprise are now governed by umpteen assessments, blocks,
provisos etc. Take the example of Princess Diana’s paddling fountain. Some
people slipped, probably because they were running or trying to slide.
Now no one is allowed to step into it. At one time, the water was even
turned off, and it may still be a dry fountain for all I know.
David Yearley, RoSPA’s Play Safety Manager, said recently that playgrounds need to be exciting enough to discourage children from seeking bigger thrills along railway lines, riverbanks and roads. RoSPA is concerned about the lack of ‘safe’ risk in play, and is supporting Learning About Safety Through Experiencing Risk (LASER), a scheme where 10-year-olds encounter various scenarios aimed at boosting road skills amongst others
factor could be over-protective parents. Western childhood is supposed
to be exciting and adventurous. I think sometimes that parents have been
bombarded with helpful manuals and television programmes to such an extent
that they are no longer willing to take calculated risks in their parenting.
Letting our children go so they can learn for themselves is something we did well in this culture for generations, but life has changed beyond recognition since my childhood. There are more people in the world; many more parents work and only see their children for extended time at weekends and holidays.
This in itself becomes a problem when one considers how frightening it can be to be a parent and how parenting skills have to be practised in order to be effective. If there are few opportunities to practise allowing your child to taste independence, due to work demands etc, then anyone in this situation is going to lack the confidence of a 24 hour parent or carer.
We acknowledge that children need space, time and safe environments to hone their skills whether physical or social; surely parents also require space and time to observe their child and get to understand their fears so that they can best support them towards autonomy. We can’t expect a child to go and climb a tall tree before they can walk and run. We shouldn’t expect anything different from a parent.
In Japan children are usually supported and protected by their mothers until they are over 3 years old. Historically, children were viewed as innately good. In Japanese culture Shinto beliefs traditionally regarded children under 7 as "belonging to the gods". In order to keep the gods happy children were indulged and treated with leniency so that they did not decide to return to the gods (Kojimo, 1986).
|The child is considered an extension of
the mother and in turn, the mother seeks to consolidate and strengthen
a mutual dependence with the child. Japanese methods of child-rearing also
strive to remove any kind of stress that the child might encounter. Thus,
a close bond is formed. The mother-child relationship in Japan is often
characterized as one of interdependence or amae (Doi, 1973). The fostering
of amae is evidenced in practices such as co-sleeping, co-bathing, and
always the child being in close proximity to the mother. Thus, the Japanese
value of interdependence is reflected in an infancy that, compared with
infancy in western cultures, includes more exclusive maternal care (Barratt,
Negayama, & Minami, 1993).
Too much safety?
We expect our children to be risk-takers. We want them to demonstrate fearlessness. We have names used specifically against those who appear timid or reluctant to try new experiences. Some aspects of play must have an element of risk to be worthwhile. That is why, when the stabilisers are removed from a child’s bike, they are so thrilled when at last they wobble along all by themselves. They know there is a strong possibility that they might fall and get hurt, but the pleasure of this particular adventure outweighs the fear.
Professor Frank Furedi, a sociologist at the University of Kent and author of Paranoid Parenting, (Allen Lane 2001) says, "I've been examining this culture of fear for seven years and every year the situation gets worse. Things that weren't a problem three years ago are today. Before, it was argued that it was unsafe for kids to play alone outdoors. Then they were unsafe playing indoors, so kids were encouraged to sit at a computer. Now there is the risk of paedophiles lurking in chat-rooms. Whatever kids do, there's a health warning.
“I passed a park play area recently and for every child on the swings or monkey bars, there were about two adults watching to make sure they didn't get hurt. There was no chance for the kids to play around and have an adventure because they were under constant surveillance. We no longer think of them as being robust - we now see them as vulnerable and at risk. We think there must be constant adult supervision. But youngsters also need to be taught to be self-sufficient."
We may be in danger of causing actual harm by making the world our children inhabit so safe that they cannot take a step into the great unknown without us. How sad that would be. Maybe it is time to make a stand against red tape and those who try to make us feel guilty if we are not with our children every waking minute of the day. If we give them the strategies to look after themselves and keep themselves safe that way, when we let them go out without us, we have armed them with good common sense and the confidence to act on it.
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